It’s completely understandable to feel uncertain or even fearful when things aren’t going the way you’d like during sex. That fear usually comes from not knowing how to guide your focus in a way that supports confidence, control, and connection.

And honestly? That’s not your fault.

Most people were never taught how to direct their attention during sex. Early experiences are often filled with pressure, secrecy, or shame, and those emotional associations wire the brain to link sex with stress, not ease and pleasure.

This coupled with too much, rushed masterbation ensured that we conditioned our nervous system to cum early or shoot to early. Our Nervous system right now is always in the sympathetic phase (part of the autonomic nervous system that prepares the body for "fight or flight" responses, primarily regulating blood vessels and other involuntary functions during stressful or urgent situations).

During sex, our bodies are supposed to recognize it as normal arousal and not register it as a "fight or flight" condition. The body should remain in the parasympathetic nervous phase (until only when we focus obsessively to cum and thats when we should ejaculate). 

You might feel like you never had to think about focus before, but you did. Focus just means being aware of what you’re doing, like when you drive a car.

Think of it this way:

• Premature ejaculation is like hitting the gas too early.

• Erectile dysfunction is like trying to drive with the handbrake on.

• Trouble reaching orgasm? Your gears and timing are just out of sync.

Therefore, sex, like driving, is a skill. And focus is what makes it smooth and satisfying.

If you’ve ever learned to drive, you didn’t get it perfect the first time. You learned how to steer, stay balanced, and adjust moment to moment. The same is true for sex - and the good news is, you can learn it.

Even those who seem naturally confident are usually following a pattern they stumbled into - until something knocks them off balance. The key is learning what actually works and how to repeat it on purpose.

The real solution isn’t in sprays or tricks - it’s in how you balance your attention throughout the sexual experience. When you know how to do that, you’ll feel more connected, more in control, and your partner will feel more included too.

Having read this far means you are surely ready to cure your embarrassing condition that makes you not interact with women or initiate intimacy because you will shoot within a few seconds. I know this very well. I have been here and have been frustrated enough. I used to run away from girls even when I was in college. I was always thinking what if I will shoot in my pants, even before rolling the condom or before foreplay. Unfortunately, I did shoot in my pants several times and that ended what could have been a good intimate moment with my girl.

Do not let this condition define your life. You can surely fix it. If I did, you can surely do it too. 

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